The Do’s and Don’ts of a Best Man’s Speech
Congratulations you’re giving the best man’s speech! You’ve been chosen as the best man at your buddy’s wedding – that’s quite an honor. However, you quickly realize you’re going to have to give a memorable toast at the reception. That sudden epiphany is both nerve-wracking and exciting. Don’t worry – The tips below will help get you through the best man’s speech successfully, without any blunders or bloopers.
What You Should Do in the Beginning
First things first, decide if you want the speech to be sentimental or light-hearted and comedic. Use your personality to your advantage. If you’re a jokester then play up your funny side and make the party laugh. However, if you are more of the serious, sensitive type then bring the crowd to tears with your toast. This is your moment to share some of your favorite memories of the happy couple with the crowd.
The best way to start off is with an introduction of who you are and what your relationship is to the groom. Next, don’t forget to mention why the groom is your best friend and what he means to you. Of course, that can be somewhat sappy, especially if you’re typically tough guys – but it’ll be appreciated. Whether you’re taking a sincere or silly approach, this is an important step in giving the perfect best man’s speech.
The Magical Middle
Once the introduction is over and everyone knows your relationship to the groom, it’s time to discuss the newlyweds. The best man’s speech is your chance to really shine. Share a few stories about how magical and perfect for each other the happy couple is. Give some insight into the moment you realized they were a match made in heaven. Again, whether you’re being witty or totally sincere, the audience will love your insightful anecdotes. Also, throw in the fact that you’ve never seen the groom happier or more in love in your entire life.
All Good Things Must Come to an End
As easy as it might be to discuss this fairytale romance all night long – just keep it concise. A good best man’s speech should be wrapped up within five minutes. Remember, you’re not the only one who will be making a toast at this event. Oftentimes the bride’s father will speak and so will the maid-of-honor, so don’t hog the microphone. If you still have more to say, consider recording a video and giving it to the couple as a thoughtful gift. End your speech by saying “congratulations,” and wishing them a lifetime of happiness. Then raise your glass to the newlyweds in a toast, take a sip and sit down in satisfaction.
What to Avoid
If this is a second wedding, as tempting as it may be, do not start your speech with, “Welcome back everybody!” Keep the dark humor to a minimum, and also, keep your drinking to a minimum. It’s okay to have a few drinks to take the edge off, but being hammered for the toast is a no-no. Also, try to avoid bringing up his ex, or making any ex-related jokes. It’s not the time or the place for that, regardless of how funny or fitting it may seem to be. Also, don’t make the toast about you – remember this is about your best buddy and his beautiful bride. Stay on topic and try to focus on the happy couple.
If you stick to the guidelines above, you will knock the toast out of the park and not hurt any feelings along the way. Good luck!