ARMENIAN WEDDING BRIDESMAID
It is such a high honor to be asked to be a bridesmaid in a close friend or family member’s wedding. They are inviting you to take part in one of the most special, memorable days of their entire lives. However, if you’ve never been to an Armenian wedding at a Glendale wedding venue and are part of the bridal party there are a few things you should be aware of.
First of all, Armenian weddings are steeped in tradition. Well before the moment you were asked to become a bridesmaid, several important activities have already taken place between both families. The night of the proposal, which is known as the “khosk-kap” was the very first step in the process. This event is normally held at the bride-to-be’s house and is traditionally the launch party that will initiate all wedding planning festivities. Members of the bride and groom’s family will have come together and if following Armenian customs, the groom would have offered gifts to his future fiancé’s family including flowers, chocolates, candles, and other thoughtful presents. At this point, his eldest family member, perhaps a grandparent or godparent, will ask for the bride’s hand in marriage and if the eldest member of the bride’s family agrees to the unification, it becomes official and the families will drink a celebratory cup of hot tea to rejoice in the engagement. Oftentimes a priest is also invited into the home to bless the rings and the couple’s successful future together.
Skipping some of the other interesting traditions and events leading up to the actual wedding reception, which is where you’ll play a major role, here are some tips on becoming the perfect bridesmaid in an Armenian wedding.
- Be Punctual. There’s little room for error or excuses here – you must be on time. Be sure you’ve set an alarm or two, that your clothes are ready to go, including the right shoes. Arrive promptly for any hair and makeup appointments that have been scheduled for you, or give yourself more than enough time to get ready if you’re handling your own hair and makeup. Allow time for traffic or unforeseen events, but no matter what – be sure you’re at the bride’s house on time for photos and to help her get ready. You’ll be escorted in a limo from the house to the church for the ceremony, to one of the Armenian banquet halls in Glendale, California or its vicinity for the incredible reception.
- Be Grateful. Remember, the bride had dozens of special women in her life to choose from, and she chose you to be in her wedding party. Do whatever she asks of you, including proudly wearing any bridesmaid gift she’s given you to and the other girls. If it is a pair of earrings or a bracelet that may not typically be your style, just wear it anyway. The bride took time and effort in purchasing these gifts, so even if it’s not your style, go ahead and wear it anyway. If the bride suggests an up-do hairstyle and you really wanted to wear your hair down, appease her and get the up-do. It’s her special day, not yours. Just be thankful to be a part of this once in a lifetime experience and try to keep a smile on her face.
- Don’t Whine. Again, today is not about you – it’s the bride and groom’s special moment to shine and celebrate their love. So, even if you think the bride is making absurd requests or demands, just suck it up and go with the flow. Complaining will make you look like a poor sport, and this is one instance where you really have to bite your tongue and be a “yes woman” for the greater good.
- Stand by your man. Generally speaking, most groomsmen would be clueless and lost if it weren’t for their female counterparts at a wedding. So, stick with your appointed usher/groomsmen throughout the day – don’t let him wander off or get lost. Also, even if you’re paired up with a stranger, take some time to get to know him and get acquainted. This will make for a much more enjoyable evening, especially when it comes time for dancing at some of the remarkable wedding venues in Glendale, CA.